This may come out of the blue, but have you ever condisered that you may be insecure? (I do not want to sound mean!) I am saying this because I was also that ‘best friend someone could ever had’ and the reason you may never encounter someone like you is because not many people suddenly extremely care for another person just because they are their friend. It could be that you are not secure enough to be mean to them or that you are afraid of them not liking you. Right now I also have a problem with anxiety getting in my way of friendships; I’m always afraid of them being toxic to me or that I’m gonna end up with no friends. I think that the problem lies within the anxiety, so, myself.

Cutting friends out of your life is not always the best choice. Every friend will have something you don’t quite like about them. We all have some imperfections. I am learning the hard way about severing relationships. I too have a hard time keeping friends and for some reason keep finding myself in toxic relationships. I hope you work things out for you.

That it. ” I’m the best friend a girl can have.” I too am this type of friend. I listen to all of my friends problems and am always supportive. It doesn’t seem like I get this in return. Maybe I should speak my mind more and be less agreeable all the time. Then I could possibly have longer lasting relationships.

I overdo it and care way too much. That’s my biggest problem

Im not in a relationship or have a child so obviously have more time to ‘care’

I’ve been dumped and its hurts like hell

I withdraw and give myself space

I try new things and meet new people

I have accepted that friendships do not last- just enjoy them whilst they are there

I’m arrogant in the sense that I always care more and do more thus no friend will ever be as ‘ nice’ as me. I’m the best friend a girl can have and I epitomise that.

With that said, I try the best I can with what I have.

I make a lot of effort

Sorry to hear about your friends relations. I have a friend who feels the same way. She too has had a lot of life stresses and expresses herself with her friends in looking for guidance and support, but what ends up happening is she ends up pushing them away.

I understand to a point that everyone has enough of their own stresses let alone adding someone elses, but friends are suppose to be here for one another. They are suppose to give that shoulder to cry on when in need. I feel that people have lost the true meaning of friends…It is thrown around way to much and not really taken serioulsy.

I had a post just last week regaridng friends and what a friend really is…check it out

http://www.rasmussen.edu/blogs/Micheles-Blog.aspx

I am a student at Rasmussen College and I post my life experiences as a student and career person…Give me some feed back on my post, it would be great!

My best,

Irene

Thanks for the great site, and for responding to my email.

I actually just started therapy last week. I’ve been feeling nervous and self-indulgent, so it was nice to hear from someone else that it is, in fact, a good idea.

As for my fractured friendship, I’ve been attempting to keep her as a friend instead of completely cutting her out of my life. It’s hard to forgive and trust, but I think her actions are coming from her own insecurity and jealousy rather than pure malevolence. So I’m trying to find a way to keep her as a friend that I can do fun things with, but maybe not trust and confide in. I’m just sick of not having any friends from my past. Since this problem seems to reoccur, I think maybe I need to try and accept friendship s and people for what they are and try to focus on the positive, and maybe work on surrounding myself with better friends in the future, although I’m not exactly sure how to go about that last one. We’ll see.

Thanks again.

My best wishes,

Irene

Best,

Irene

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